Relationship Day – Oneness

Profound words from Bhagavan – Oneness UniversityOneness relationships

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Things we can learn from a dog

1.   Never pass up the opportunity to go for a joy ride.

2.   Allow the experience of fresh air and the wind in your face to be pure ecstasy.

3.   When loved ones come home, always run and greet them.

4.  When it’s in your best interest, practice obedience.

5.   Let others know when they have invaded your territory.

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7.   Run, romp, and play daily.

8.   Eat with gusto and enthusiasm.

9.   Be loyal.

10.   Never pretend to be something you’re not.

11.   If what you want is buried, dig until you find it.

12.   Delight in the simple joy of a long walk.

13.   Thrive on attention.

14.  Avoid biting when a simple growl will do.

15.   On hot days, drink lots of water and sit under a shady tree.

16.   When you’re happy, dance around and wag your whole body.

17.  When someone is having a bad day, be silent, sit close by, and nuzzle him or her gently.

18.   No matter how often you are scolded, don’t buy the guilt thing and pout – run right back and make friends.

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Power of words

Are you proud of every word you say?

words to destiny“Would the people I am talking about feel special if they could hear what I was saying about them?

Will My conversations, with every person feel better or worse about themselves after they walk away from me?

Do I tell the whole truth or do I add some extra juicy or gossipy bits to make the story interesting?

Does the tone of my voice make me sound harsh, aggressive or loud?

Do I use complimentary, positive words about all the people in my life or do negative words about my family, friends, team mates or strangers appear when I am angry, tired, frustrated or feeling defensive?

Do my words compliment or criticise?

Do my words pick people up or pull people down?

Do I choose to speak highly of people or would it be better if I said nothing?

Do my words add value to or devalue the people in my life?

Would I be proud of myself if all of my conversations found their way onto the radio for everyone to hear?

Can I be proud of the person I am because of the words I use?”

Rowena Szeszeran-McEvoy

Pain relief….doesn’t relieve pain

Your average Aussie is in pain.

What kind?

Emotional pain.

When we don’t have enough time, money, influence, peace, health, success, intimacy, happiness, appreciation, gratitude or whatever it is we are chasing – we notice that it’s missing and feel emotional pain.

That causes us to buy pain relief, which of course, comes in many flavours. It might be car themed, travel based, workaholic-ed, shopaholic, eataholic or any one of a thousand versions. One thing this pain relief will never do is relieve the pain, it only suppresses it for awhile.

Another method of pain relief is to actually allow ourselves to feel the pain.  I mean really feel it in the body.  Consciously bring attention to the feeling. Where is it?  What does it look like? What colour, texture, shape, sound etc. Recognise it, feel it and accept it!  As Paul would say, “The healing is in the expression of the feeling”. This has a reprogramming effect on the subconscious. The emotions stuffed down in the subconscious get validated ….consequently, with being heard, they can let go their controlling grip on our behaviour. When in pain, we need to be heard. Hear you subconscious pain, give it a voice, feel it and validate.

Give this reprogramming a go next time you are reaching for pain relief that your conscious mind knows is no good for you.

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Parenting and child stages

The best qualification of being a parent is to discover love and teach it to your children.

14 emotions art of livingParenting begins with the intention to conceive. Your intention will have an impact on your child.

Without love, you will not respond but react to your child from fear, frustration or hurt.

If a child is brought up without fear and anxiety, they are capable of giving love.

A child is born right at the moment of conception.

The period of conception to the first 6 hours of the child’s life is crucial.

Keep the child in the space of love for the first 6 weeks…. especially, no super markets, or negativity.

A child’s education begins in the womb, where the child is experiencing what the mother and father are experiencing.  In the womb, the child is experiencing “being”.

Yoga, meditation and being happy are beneficial for the pregnant mother and for the child. The father’s most important job is to make sure that mother is very, very happy.

as it isIn the first 6 hours, the child has an expanded state of consciousness and can sense the thoughts and feelings of everyone around.  Shower them with love and touch them and hold them.  Children make fundamental decisions before the age of 6, which they may carry for the rest of their lives.

3 PHASES

0-6 years

Treat them like a King or Queen.  Lavish them with love, attention and affection.   Reduce the ‘no’s

Try to be present to the child.

The child’s responses and perceptions evolve from here.

6-12 years

Treat the child like a prince or princess.

Strike a balance between freedom and discipline.

Be an example of what you would like your children to become.

Children are natural imitators. Children see and children do.

12/14 years plus

Treat them like a friend and equal.  Bring respect along with love.  Children who are respected grow up to be great individuals.

After 12/14, you need not give instruction to your child, rather use suggestion and enquiries.

Most likely your child will start saying ‘no’ to you. Do not suppress this no phase. It will pass by around the age of 18-20.

Suppression of this ‘no’ phase may lead the child to ‘no’ throughout life.

Help the child think and make decisions to be independent and enquiring, whilst at the same time giving them your full support.

Don’t feel guilty for mistakes.  Love can heal.

Hold your child in your heart, and if you have hurt them, ask for forgiveness.

In their innocence, they come trustingly into your care.

Reference – Notes from a Oneness weekend course.

 

Characteristics of a conscious relationship

1.     You realise that your relationship has a hidden purpose – the healing of childhood wounds.  Instead of focusing entirely on surface needs and desires, you learn to recognise the unresolved childhood issues that underly them.  When you look at relationship with this x-ray vision, your daily interactions take on more meaning.  Puzzling aspects of your relationship begin to make sense to you, and you have a greater sense of control.

 2.     You create a more accurate image of your partner.  At the very moment of your attraction, you began fusing your partner with your parents or caretakers.  Later you projected your negative traits onto your partner, further concealing your partner’s essential reality.  As you move towards a conscious relationship, you gradually let go of these illusions and begin to see more of your partner’s truth.  You see your partner not as your saviour but as another wounded human being, struggling to be healed.

3.     You take responsibility for communicating your needs and desires to your partner.  In an unconscious relationship, you cling to the childhood belief that your partner automatically understands your needs.  In a conscious relationship, you accept the fact that, in order to understand each other, you have to develop clear channels of communication.

4.     You become more intentional in your interactions.  In an unconscious relationship, you tend to react without thinking.  You allow the response of your subconscious to control your behaviour.  In a conscious relationship, you train yourself to behave in a more constructive manner.

5.     You  learn to value your partner’s needs and wishes as highly as you value your own.  In an unconscious relationship, you assume that your partner’s role in life is to take care of your needs magically.  In a conscious relationship, you let go of this view and divert more and more of your energy to meeting your partner’s needs.

6.     You embrace the dark side of your personality.  In a conscious relationship, you openly acknowledge the fact that you, like everyone else, have negative traits.  As you accept responsibility for this dark side of your nature, you lessen your tendency to project your negative traits onto your mate, which creates a less hostile environment.

7.     You learn new techniques to satisfy your basic needs and desires.  During the power struggle, you rave, rant, and blame in an attempt to coerce your partner to meet your needs.  When you attempt to move beyond this stage, you realise that your partner can indeed be a resource for you – once you abandon your self-defeating tactics.

8.     You search within yourself for the strengths and abilities you are lacking.  One reason you were attracted to your partner is that your partner had strengths and abilities that you lacked.  Therefore, being with your partner gave you an illusory sense of wholeness.  In a conscious relationship, you learn that the only way you can truly recapture a sense of oneness is to develop the hidden traits within yourself.

9.     You become aware of your drive to be loving and whole and at one with the world around you.  As a part of your inherent nature, you have the ability to love unconditionally and to experience oneness with the world around you.  Social conditioning and imperfect parenting made you lose touch with these qualities.  In a conscious relationship, you begin to rediscover your original nature.

10. You accept the difficulty of creating a good relationship.  In an unconscious relationship, you believe that the way to have a good relationship is to pick the right partner.  In a conscious relationship, you realise you have to be the right partner.  As you gain a more realistic view of love relationships, you realise that a good relationship requires commitment, discipline, and the courage to grow and change; relationships are hard work.

Source – Beyond Success Coaching, Relationship Unit

Healthy relationships are going to be vital during the changes in 2012