The best qualification of being a parent is to discover love and teach it to your children.
Without love, you will not respond but react to your child from fear, frustration or hurt.
If a child is brought up without fear and anxiety, they are capable of giving love.
A child is born right at the moment of conception.
The period of conception to the first 6 hours of the child’s life is crucial.
Keep the child in the space of love for the first 6 weeks…. especially, no super markets, or negativity.
A child’s education begins in the womb, where the child is experiencing what the mother and father are experiencing. In the womb, the child is experiencing “being”.
Yoga, meditation and being happy are beneficial for the pregnant mother and for the child. The father’s most important job is to make sure that mother is very, very happy.
In the first 6 hours, the child has an expanded state of consciousness and can sense the thoughts and feelings of everyone around. Shower them with love and touch them and hold them. Children make fundamental decisions before the age of 6, which they may carry for the rest of their lives.
Treat them like a King or Queen. Lavish them with love, attention and affection. Reduce the ‘no’s
Try to be present to the child.
The child’s responses and perceptions evolve from here.
Treat the child like a prince or princess.
Strike a balance between freedom and discipline.
Be an example of what you would like your children to become.
Children are natural imitators. Children see and children do.
12/14 years plus
Treat them like a friend and equal. Bring respect along with love. Children who are respected grow up to be great individuals.
After 12/14, you need not give instruction to your child, rather use suggestion and enquiries.
Most likely your child will start saying ‘no’ to you. Do not suppress this no phase. It will pass by around the age of 18-20.
Suppression of this ‘no’ phase may lead the child to ‘no’ throughout life.
Help the child think and make decisions to be independent and enquiring, whilst at the same time giving them your full support.
Don’t feel guilty for mistakes. Love can heal.
Hold your child in your heart, and if you have hurt them, ask for forgiveness.
In their innocence, they come trustingly into your care.
Reference – Notes from a Oneness weekend course.