Why men lie to women

3 Reasons why men lie to women.

Guys and lies – it often seems like the two are inextricably linked!

Men, even the good ones, seem to be unable to stick to the truth.

Whether it’s about little things that don’t even really matter, or the important issues in your relationship that depend on an honest conversation…

You know he often hides behind anything from little white lies to whoppers of epic proportions!

Here’s the truth: men lie to the women they love and they lie often.

But why can’t they simply tell the truth?

There are 3 main reasons that men lie to the women in their lives…

Understanding each of them is the key to getting your man to open up so your relationship can be built on honesty and integrity, instead of suspicion and deceit!

The First Reason Behind His Lies

Sometimes men lie to women because they don’t think you want to hear the truth.

Have you ever asked, “Do I look fat in this?”

These sorts of questions have convinced men that there are too many potential traps in responding honestly.

Rather than navigate them, it’s easier to simply tell you what they think you want to hear.

The Second Reason Behind His Lies

Sometimes men lie to women because they think if they tell you the truth, you simply won’t like them as much.

If you ask, “What are you thinking about?” you’re likely to get a very fast response like this one: “Uh…nothing, honey.”

The Third (and Biggest) Reason Behind His Lies

But the third reason men lie to women is the one that shocks women the most…

One of the biggest reasons men lie to women is because men are terrified of women and their emotions!

It might sound weird, but emotions are actually a lot harder for guys to deal with and to recover from.

According to Dr. John Gottman of the University of Washington, women can both enter and recover from extreme emotional states a lot faster and easier than guys can.

If you think about it, it makes sense.

We’ve all seen a woman burst into tears one moment, only to be totally fine a minute or two later.

But when it comes to emotions, guys are a lot more fragile.

What do you think?  Could this information be used to change behaviour and make a difference?

Researched and written by Michael Fiore.        http://itsallaboutwomen.com

Now, why do women lie to men? Leave a thought below for our own little research!

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Love

Love is patient; love is kind and envies no one.

Love is never boastful, nor conceited, nor rude;

never selfish, not quick to take offence.

Love keeps no score of wrongs;

does not gloat over other’s sins,

but delights in the truth.

  

There is nothing that love cannot face;

there is no limit to its faith, its hope, and its endurance.

In a word, there are three things that last forever:

faith, hope, and love;

but the greatest of them all is love.

100/0 Relationship Principle

Taking 100% responsibility for your relationship

What is the most effective way to create and sustain great relationships with others? It’s The 100/0 Principle: You take full responsibility (the 100) for the relationship, expecting nothing (the 0) in return.

Implementing The 100/0 Principle is not natural for most of us. It takes real commitment to the relationship and a good dose of self-discipline to think, act and give 100 percent.

The 100/0 Principle applies to those people in your life where the relationships are too important to react automatically or judgmentally. Each of us must determine the relationships to which this principle should apply. For most of us, it applies to work associates, clients, suppliers, family and friends.

STEP 1 – Determine what you can do to make the relationship work…then do it. Demonstrate respect and kindness to the other person, whether he/she deserves it or not.

STEP 2 – Do not expect anything in return. Zero, zip, nada.

STEP 3 – Do not allow anything the other person says or does (no matter how annoying!) to affect you. In other words, don’t take the bait.

STEP 4 – Be persistent with your graciousness and kindness. Often we give up too soon, especially when others don’t respond in kind. Remember to expect nothing in return.

At times (usually few), the relationship can remain challenging, even toxic, despite your 100 percent commitment and self-discipline. When this occurs, you need to avoid being the “Knower” and shift to being the “Learner.” Avoid Knower statements/ thoughts like “that won’t work,” “I’m right, you are wrong,” “I know it and you don’t,” “I’ll teach you,” “that’s just the way it is,” “I need to tell you what I know,” etc.

Instead use Learner statements/thoughts like “Let me find out what is going on and try to understand the situation,” “I could be wrong,” “I wonder if there is anything of value here,” “I wonder if…” etc. In other words, as a Learner, be curious!

Principle Paradox

This may strike you as strange, but here’s the paradox: When you take authentic responsibility for a relationship, more often than not the other person quickly chooses to take responsibility as well. Consequently, the 100/0 relationship quickly transforms into something approaching 100/100. When that occurs, true breakthroughs happen for the individuals involved. Congratulations well deserved!

source;  Al Ritter

How do we get out of the blame game?

What does Responsibility mean to you?

To me, it used to have connotations of obligation, accountability, ownership, and being loaded with a generous pinch of judgment and self-blame or liability. It conjures up images of my childhood,   “You need to be responsible”.   It was good to learn that it’s about choosing our actions and with them come their consequences.  To not blame others and therefore to have much more control over my live,  even if I didn’t want to own that responsibility all the time! It’s much easier to blame. Now I realise that blaming makes me a victim to circumstances rather than feeling in control of my own life.

“You take responsibility for your life and a ‘terrible’ thing happens… no one to blame!”

Responsibility is your ‘ability to respond”.  WOW!  That’s a pretty cool way of looking at it!  So by taking responsibility, you are acknowledging your ability to respond.  You are not a passive recipient in the world but an active entity!   I loved the freedom and power that came with seeing it in this new light: responsibility: your “response ability” or “ability to respond”.

So how does it apply to real life?

Embracing that we have control over what happens next.  We  take control of the situation and put the ball back in our court.  By taking responsibility for our health,  life,  actions, we take back our power and become free to respond and move forward in any way we choose.   By not taking responsibility or holding others responsible, we give our power away, we are effectively saying I have no control over that, which leaves us powerless to change and grow or influence others and circumstances.

It would appear that taking responsibility takes us to a point for maximum growth.

Here’s to stepping into our own power! Love to hear what you think below.