“Where in your life are you avoiding a choice? Are you willing to make self-honouring choices today? If you don’t make clear and conscious choices, you’ll be stuck with whatever shows up. ” Iyanla Vanzart
This is quite a confronting quote. But there is so much in it… The quote eludes to how even not making a choice is actually making a choice. “Are you willing to make self-honouring choices today?” Wow, this is important, how often in life are the choices you make in line with what you really want, really feel, really believe. By making self-honouring choices you start to make different sorts of decisions and live a life more in line with your values and meeting your needs. This is powerful.
Are there things in your life that you are putting off and hoping will just go away? We never get to hide from ourselves, so if it is a life choice that you are putting off and it affects your wellbeing, taking ownership and doing what you need to do… can be very liberating.
Sometimes it is challenging to stand up for yourself or to have the courage to make decisions or choices that other people might not understand and might not approve of. One of the most important things you can do for yourself and your health is to be true to yourself.
Make choices in line with your value systems and in line with your beliefs. Sometimes it might make you unpopular, sometimes it might upset others. Dr Demartini once explained: “If I have to choose to (upset) myself or (upset) somebody else, I choose them”, while this may come across as quite a selfish point of view in some ways it makes sense, at the end of the day, many people will come in and out of your lives, but you are stuck with you and your choices forever.
Also, are you ‘saving’ someone’s feelings OR saving yourself from the consequences!?
And one interesting thing I have observed is how often the choices you make will actually inspire people or encourage people, empowering them or giving them permission to make self honouring choices as well.
Have the courage to stand up for yourself, believe in yourself and make the choices you know you need to make. “If you don’t stand for something, you may fall for anything.”
You will always be glad you did… and know that whatever choice you end up making will be exactly the right one for you at this moment and for this circumstance.