I often get the question…….Why can’t I do what I want to do?
How can I stop procrastinating?
procrastination = distractions (+ excuses)
Answer these questions; What are the distractions? Why the excuses?
Also; Is there a lack of motivation? Does your task fit with your values and desires?
Are you a Passive procrastinator – relaxed and enjoying life?
or an Active procrastinator – protecting yourself. Fear of ……………………..
The Procrastination Process
Procrastination is a strange phenomenon. Its purpose seems to be to make our life more pleasant, but instead it almost always adds stress, disorganisation and frequently failure.
Just some of the myriad of reasons we might procrastinate include:
Fear of the Unknown
Fear of Failure.
Inability to Handle the Task
Fear and Anxiety
Negative Beliefs about Yourself.
What to Do about Procrastination
If we are able to admit that our procrastination is not the basic “problem” but rather an attempted “cure” for fears, self-doubts, and dislike of work, we are able to uncover the real problems – underlying fears, attitudes and irrational ideas. We can then deal with the real “problem” and make responsible choices.
Asking yourself, “Am I a relaxed or a tense procrastinator?”
Mark Twain once observed, “twenty years from now, you will be more disappointed by things that you didn’t do than by the things that you did do”. When we procrastinate, we create much of our own misery in the first place by telling ourselves the task is really awful (“I hate all this reading”) or by putting ourselves down (“I’ll do a terrible job”) or by telling ourselves something is very unfair (“This task is ridiculous, I can’t stand my boss”) or by setting impossible goals (“I’ve got to get all A’s”). Then we procrastinate to avoid our own self-created emotional dislike of the job at hand.
It’s important now to start stacking your successes
by keeping your word to yourself.
DO what you say you will, and your subconscious mind
will become less of a saboteur and more on your side.
related post – Are You Procrastinating or Just Disinterested?