Trust

Read a great article the other day about the extras in life that can be achieved when trust is a major ingredient in the transaction.

Our experience is not just that money can be made more quickly – after all a 37 year marriage rests on a bedrock of trust. And that trust has been tested many times – that’s how we know it works.

Whilst everything in your life will go better with trust as the keystone: relationships, health, business, holidays, you name it – the key isn’t trust in others despite its necessity.

It’s trust in oneself that makes the biggest difference in our lives.

As I’ve said many a time in Resolving The Mindset Riddle – break someone’s trust and they’ll get over it.

Break your own and you wont.

You’ll forever know yourself as a liar.

Therefore we need to become trustworthy with ourselves by keeping promises like going to the gym, staying off alcohol if we said we would, meditating each day…

Boring I know – but if ever I’ve seen a recipe for success – that would be it.

Source – Paul Blackburn, Beyond Success

A world that lives in Love

‘The Alternate Economy is first and foremost about personal change.”

How do we take a world wracked with woe, ravaged by greed and tormented by fear and turn it into a world of Love?

It seems an insurmountable odd.  There are so many things standing in our way.  Even if we did secure the resources to begin building a Utopia, how do we deal with human nature?  How do we deal with the inevitable attempts to destroy us.  To steal what we have.  To drag us back down.

What, even, will this Utopia look like?  How can it be designed in a way to ensure that it survives human nature?  Can such a thing be done?

It is true that I have gone into little detail about the final product.  You will find scores and scores of motivational material that builds humanity up and discusses how we could achieve such a thing.  But what exactly is it we are trying to achieve?

Part of the reason I have gone into little detail, is because I do not feel it is up to me to define what living in Love entails.  Who am I to say?  I believe in Love and trust that it is good and easy and beautiful and therefore I trust that when humanity learns how to live in Love, the end result will be good and easy and beautiful.  But I have never lived in a Utopia before (at least not in this life).  I do not really know what it would look like.  I can guess.  I can hope.  I can imagine.  But I cannot truly say what a world that lives in Love will begin to look like.

Having said that, it is my responsibility to at least give some hint of vision for the future.  I  will not claim this is the only way, but if I were to hazard a guess, I see a Utopia turning out a lot like this:

Let us pretend that our community has managed to break the cycle of abuse and create a community that lives in Love. I would like to track a new life entering this community, one which is free of encumbrances from the cycle of abuse. Let us see what human nature truly looks like.

A young couple moves into their new home in this new community. The home is a gift, a thank you for all of the support they have offered the Alternate Economy so far. Each young individual begins to contribute to the community as best they can, by pursuing their passions. The father is an excellent cook, and had always loved the calm of the early mornings. He wakes each day and travels to the community kitchens. His home has a kitchen suitable for feeding his family, but for the sort of work he wishes to do today, the community kitchen will fare far better. It is equipped with dozens of high-end ovens and plenty of space for preparation. Because he is wise, he makes sure to alert the community to the times he intends to use the kitchen, by signing up for various time slots. Once he arrives he bakes to his heart’s content. He makes loaves of bread, and cookies and muffins and croissants. Tomorrow he may make something else, but he always makes sure to make as much as he can. After noon he retires to his home, with the choice treats he has selected for his lover to share. The rest of his wares he drops off at the community marketplace. Here others come by in the afternoon time to see what is being offered for the day. They drop off their daily offerings and select the products they wish to take home. If the community finds it is always lacking in one thing, they will petition their neighbours to concentrate more on that item for a while. Croissants are nice, but bread is necessary. After checking if there are any requests for his production for tomorrow, he finally arrives home from his day’s work to be greeted by his lover.

She is also pursuing her passions, but these do not require that she leave the home. She is an avid video editor and takes on projects for the community, to help in either education, awareness or entertainment. She is currently working on a collaboration between the local theatre and the local high school to produce a video which features the conversations between Plato and Socrates. She also likes to wake early and get her work done before her lover arrives home, so that they may spend the rest of the day together.

After a few months of this, the couple decide to have a child. They are very excited for the endeavour, and receive large amounts of support from their friends and neighbours and family. The local midwife attends to the expecting mother, and helps to ensure the birth is as natural and stress free as possible. The mother is educated on proper human motivation and responses to stimuli during the pregnancy, of her own volition. She wants only the best for the newest Love in her life. She is shown how human touch is the most important aspect to the development of a small infant. The mothers diet is the second most important thing. She is given various tools to help her raise her child in the most loving way possible.

Once the child is born, she is given a loving shoulder to lean against for the first few months of her life. She is supported with good diet and proper healthcare. Once she learns to walk and talk she is supported with motivational comments. She is not told that she is naturally talented or naturally smart or naturally gifted, as these statement are just as destructive as being told we are naturally stupid. She is told that she is naturally unique in her passions and that it is her efforts that will be her reward in life. She is told how impressive her efforts have been, regardless of the outcome. She is told that she will be accepted, even when she fails. She will be congratulated on her successes, as a feat well-earned through hard work and awareness of her actions. She will enter school when deemed ready and will begin to interact with knowledge in a new way.

When she arrives at school she will be greeted by a mentor. This mentor will help her to learn to read and write and will guide her in her progress at school. There will be no grades, no marks, no tests. Only books and guest lectures and special screenings and interactive computers and science labs and art rooms and music rooms and workshops. School will be a giant library, with practical labs attached for students to practice what they have read. At first our new student will be obsessed with horses. She will look for any book that has photos or drawings of horses and only read those. Her mentor, understanding the power of passion, allows her obsession. The mentor knows that in time, she will either tire of horses, or become the most knowledgable horse whisperers in history. It seems she does tire, as her concerns are shifted by one book. “Animal Farm” by George Orwell. Her love of horses has turned to a passion for the phrase “ALL ANIMALS ARE EQUAL, BUT SOME ARE MORE EQUAL THAN OTHERS”. Her mentor attempts to explain how other societies in the past used to enslave people and animals and how the sharing of resources and knowledge had not yet been mastered. She does not quite comprehend how this could have been. No one would ever be so silly as to believe that some humans were less worthy than others. All of her friends were beloved in her eyes and worthy of nothing but praise. She then begins to investigate the current farming situation in her community. She is shocked and appalled to find that animals are still used to man’s advantage, as if they were somehow less worthy of Love. A new passion is born. She will not rest until she comes to understand why we still, even after creating a Utopia, raise animals for food. In her quest for Truth, she meets many interesting people and hears many sides of the story. She listens and learns and shares her Love. She comes to learn about the nature and habits of domesticated farm animals. She comes to learn about ecosystems and the food chain and how it has functioned up until this point. But she is not convinced. She will not allow animals to be treated thus, even if it all makes sense on paper.

She has become Love. In her quest for Truth, started by a love of horses, she has come to design fully integrated eco farms. Giant paddocks that use natural processes to allow cows and pigs to live in the closest thing to their natural habitat. I don’t really know what that looks like, she hasn’t been born yet, and hasn’t designed them, but they are pretty spectacular, of that I am sure.

Welcome to the Alternate Economy. People are allowed to share in the community’s wealth, because they contribute to it. The community supports one another in sickness and in health, with Love as their motivator. They do what they do best and they share it with their friends. That is all there is to it. The rest is up to its members. The Alternate Economy will only ever be as spectacular as the people who create it. I do not want to limit it. I believe that people are great, if given the chance to prove it. Imagine what this community could look like. Your vision is just as important as mine.

For it is only together that we will ever find out.

Source - http://alternateeconomy.wordpress.com

Terms of Enragement

Your belief in right and wrong, good and bad, best and better and your ability to distinguish one concept from the other is likely a very honorable system of judgment.

Your beliefs illustrate for you what might be described as ideal behavior. Like you, however, people don’t always behave ideally. That does not mean you should compromise your beliefs. It does mean that you can make better choices in how you encounter weakness in others. Simply because people don’t behave ideally does not mean they are bad or flawed. It simply means that people are not always willing to cooperate with you.  Hold on to your honorable beliefs about ideal behavior. Do your best to express your beliefs in your own behavior. Remember, however, people don’t always live by your expectations of them.

In fact, you, yourself, don’t always live up to the expectations you have of others. We all fail on some level. Everyone has a perfect right to behave foolishly. And they often exercise that perfect right. No one HAS TO treat you respectfully, honestly, favorably or kindly. You do not NEED people to be considerate, empathetic, thoughtful, intelligent, selfless or brave. You can live happily in a world where they don’t – right alongside them. Maybe not as perfectly as you could if everything went as you planned. You could experience, instead, a different kind of happy – a more rational happy, one that includes such things as sadness (that people behave that way) and forgiveness (for human failure and weakness). 

Your expectations are your terms for enragement. I will never like it that people are so irresponsible with one another, but I can still be happy in my life even when they behave in ways that I don’t like.”

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Dance! Dance! Dance!

Did you know?

  • Music improves serotonin levels making you feel happier.
  • Music can help you relax: “Half an hour of music produces the same effect as 10 milligrams of Valium.”  R. Bahr, Director of Coronary Care, St. Agnes Hospital, Baltimore, Maryland.
  • Dancing is so good for the memory and mind it has a preventative effect on Alzheimers disease!
  • Dancing burns calories, tones your muscles and is a great way of getting fit!

There is something so invigorating about Latin Dancing!  I love my Zumba. I get such a thrill from it I feel like I am high!  Maybe it is the music, maybe it’s  all that blood rushing around my body, whatever it is, IT FEELS GREAT!

Health for Busy People!

Is it possible to be busy and healthy?

When you are pushed for time it can be hard to even think about, let alone action, a healthy lifestyle.

How much is your health costing your business?How much is your health costing you?

What you need is a few simple, easy to apply solutions, that will make an impact but require very little effort to implement.

Here are 5 things you can do that will help to:

  • Keep your energy levels up
  • Keep your mind focused
  • Keep you in control of your mood
  1. Eat something for breakfast: some quick breakfast choices are… a Carmen’s muesli bar, an apple and a handful of nuts, a bowl of muesli, a bowl of instant oats, A vegetable juice (a good combination is apple, beetroot, carrot, celery and ginger), a banana and a some almonds, fruit salad and yoghurt, whole grain seeded toast/pumperknickle or rye toast with avocado, peanut butter,  hummus, sliced tomato, a boiled egg or some veggie mite.  A good breakfast gives your brain, red blood cells and nerves the energy they need to get fired up and function for the day.  If you don’t have breakfast your body will break down your MUSCLE to fuel itself, a sure way to make you feel tired and low on energy.
  2. Keep healthy snacks like nuts and fresh fruit or trailmix, veggie sticks or sesame ryevita and hummus  handy to snack on during the day. Eating regularly through the day (small amounts 3-5 times) helps to keep your blood sugar levels stable, which keeps your energy levels and your mood stable… it’s that simple! The fresher the food, the more energy available in it.
  3. Keep well hydrated. Drink lots of water and keep the caffeine intake low.  A dehydrated brain feels foggy, dizzy and dirty.  Keep it feeling fresh and clear with lots of hydrating fluids, water, herbal teas, vegetable juices (aim for at least 3 glasses of water and 3 cups of some other caffeine free, 100 % natural beverage like 2 herbal teas and a vegetable juice) .
  4. Move your body in a way that feels good.  Keep the energy flowing into and out of your body, think of your body as a body of water, you want to stir it up every now and again, keep the stream flowing and circulating, airing it, energising it so that it doesn’t stagnate. Do you want a crystal flowing stream, bubbling brook or a stagnant smelly swamp.  Move in ways that you love e.g. walk, sFind time to play!kip, dance, body surf in the ocean, ride your bicycle, do the funky chicken with your kids, hike, swim… Start by getting physical in ways that feel invigorating and are filled with pleasure, don’t start with exercises that feel like torture and punishment. Move everyday! Do it with someone if it helps. The payoff from the commitment is MASSIVE. Commit to it, then do it, you will be SO glad you did after you have. Make time to play!
  5. Live on purpose… live and act with deliberate intention, pride and love. Love what you are creating and contributing to and acting on everyday. Find ways to reflect positively and shed light on all your daily activities. The things that you are finding difficult to do or procrastinating about might be out of line with your value systems, your beliefs, your purpose… this will cause incongruency in your life, which can manifest as pain, fatigue, frustration, disease. Find little ways to be grateful for what you are doing, find pleasure in all you do and do what you love.

 

Nurture yourself when you need comfort


Need some extra inspiration or support?  www.ivegotlife.com.au

 

Learning to let go!

How much do you choose to be unhappy?

When you hold on to negative thoughts, feelings or habits, do you have choice?

Are you struggling  with something that happened yesterday, last month or years ago?

Can you choose to let go!  In a flash!  Right now!
Choose your mindset!

It seems hard to believe that people actually choose to spend time worrying or dwelling negatively on things that can’t be changed and yet that is exactly what happens every single day. I’ve done it. You’ve done it. We’ve all had episodes in our lives where we’ve allowed negativity to steal the best of us.

If you’re holding on to negative thoughts right now … perhaps worrying about that job interview you messed up, or dwelling on the horrible things someone once said to you, or angry at yourself for acting badly in a heated moment, or thinking with regret about the things you should have done when you had the opportunity, and so on … then it’s time to have a clear out and let go of all the feelings and habits that don’t support you.

Start by being mindful of your self-talk … that inner dialogue that may be feeding your attachment to what has been and gone.

Every time a negative thought, feeling or habit rears its head, replace it with a positive.

This will take some time and dedication but, as you become aware of the thoughts and habits that dominate your day, you can change your outlook and perspective. Importantly, you can take back your valuable ‘now’ time and be happier and contented.

So, take time to invest in yourself. Begin today. Let go of redundant thoughts, emotions, and habits and start living in the present. It’s a gift that you’ll soon learn to cherish.

Have a positive day!

“Yesterday is not ours to recover, but tomorrow is ours to win or to lose.” – Lyndon B. Johnson

Mindfulness

What is mindfulness exactly, and how does it help our emotional wellbeing?

The leading trainer in mindfulness in Australia (and one of the best in the world) is Dr Russ Harris, bestselling author of The Happiness Trap and The Confidence Gap.

Mindfulness is an everyday practice that can ‘increase fulfillment, reduce stress, raise self-awareness, enhance emotional intelligence, and undermine destructive emotive, cognitive, and behavioural processes.’

There are two essential elements to mindfulness. The first is to become a nonjudgmental observer of our thoughts and feelings. It is about distancing yourself from what you think and what you do, and watching as if you were someone else – with curiosity and openness. It helps us to detach from negative thoughts and feelings and watch them come and go, rather than buy into them and allow ourselves to get stressed out as a result. Basically it allows us not to believe everything we tell ourselves! Because the truth is that most of our self-talk is simply NOT true! So when we are being mindful, we watch and listen (and laugh a lot of the time, because we really do say some ridiculous things to ourselves).

The second element of mindfulness is that we focus entirely on what we are doing in the present moment. Staying in the present enables us to focus on any task we are doing to the best our ability, free from distractions such as constant thoughts about what we should be doing, what we would rather be doing, what we have done and what we need to do. Our fantasies about what we would rather be doing often lead to suffering. Practicing gratitude (focusing on what we DO have rather than what we DON’T have) and making the most of what we ARE doing RIGHT NOW is the key to happiness.

If you are interested in reading more about Dr Russ Harris’ mindfulness work, his website is www.actmindfully.com.au.

Dalai Lama

INSTRUCTIONS FOR LIFE         Dalai Lama

1.    Take into account that great love and great achievements   involve great risk.

2.    When you lost, don’t lost the lesson.

3.    Follow the 3 R’s:

        Respect for self

Respect for other’s and

Responsibility for all your actions

4.    Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck

5.    Learn the rules so that you know how to break them properly

6.    Don’t let a little dispute injure a great relationship.

7.    When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.

8.    Spend some time alone every day.

9.    Open arms to change, but don’t let go of your values

10.    Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer

11.    Live a good, honourable life. Then when you get older and think back, you’ll be able to enjoy it a second time.

12.    A loving atmosphere in your home is your foundation.

13.    In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation.  Don’t bring up the past

14.    Share you knowledge.  It’s a great way to achieve immortality.

15.    Be gentle with the earth.

16.    Once a year, go someplace you’ve never been before

17.    Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.

18.    Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.

19.    Approach love and cooking with reckless abandon.